Give and take is what makes a relationship strong. Keeping the relationship between two people equal is necessary. Yet in reality, there are cases wherein there is an imbalance in the relationship. Maintaining such situations can make the relationship go into a brink. It can even destroy a family. In this article, 10 facts to know that you are being taken advantage of by your partner is listed:
They Refuse To Label The Relationship
The relationship should have a label. If you notice that you and your partner are not giving your relationship an official label, then you should talk about it. Then, if your partner is taking things too long, saying that he or she might not yet be ready, then you probably be taken advantage of. There comes a time where you need to stop waiting and make things official, with no excuses.
They’re Preoccupied With Someone Else
This is not about the occasional innocent flirting with someone. “While someone may not have crossed any physical boundaries with social media flirting, “liking”, and texting with emojis, experts believe it can turn into an emotional affair (i.e. an affair of the heart).” Sam Louie MA, LMHC explains. This is to those who give their all attention to someone who is not their partner. Disregarding your connection with each other, all relationship has its own boundaries. Especially if you are not officially labeled as “in the relationship.” If you give your full attention to that one person who is preoccupied with someone or even something else doesn’t have your best interest.
Your Partner Is So Ideal When You Two Are Alone
Your partner is someone you should be proud of, whether you are alone or out in public. If you and you’re partner are confident and proud to be seen together, this means your relationship is still for the better. But if you’re partner shows that they do not want to be seen with you out in public, even though his affection towards you are still the same if you two are alone.
They Never Make Time For You
A relationship is like a business, you have to give time for it to survive and be successful. In your relationship, if you notice that you are the only one trying to make plans, then, it might be unfair. It is time to reconsider your relationship if your partner is not working it out for both of you.
You Work Harder At The Relationship
As said before, a relationship is all about given and take. This means that if you alone is doing all the things and your partner is all about taking up what you have done for them, then they are taking advantage of you. Relationships need to have some mutuality or exchange, and if your relationship doesn’t then, it is time to end it. There is no reason for you to put all of your best effort which wouldn’t do the same for you. “Participating together as a couple gives the partners the opportunity to pay closer attention to one another and listen more intimately to their needs, wants, and dissatisfactions, thus establishing a closer bond and a more intimate connection.” Dana Baduna, PhD, LMFT said. And that is what should happen.
They Put The Guilt On You To Do Things For Them
When there is no equality in the relationship, it often looks like a person is doing all the things. In your experience, did your partner ever made you feel guilty about doing something you don’t want to? It is still unacceptable for the other person to force you to do something you do not want to.
They Pay More Attention To Your Appliances Than You
Some people use your things more than you do or say that values your possessions more than you. For example, if you notice that your partner is using your kitchen often while being at your place than spending time with you, then they may value your material possessions more than you. Then it is time for you to think back and they might be taking advantage of you in such an aspect.
They’re Constantly Asking For Favors
If your partner likes asking huge favors from you and is unwilling to do a small favor for you, then your case is being taken advantage of. This also means that this person is only there because they need something or they can get what they like from you, but they cannot give you more than their presence in your life. Being in a relationship means that the other person should also make the same effort you are doing for them. This does not necessarily require them to do the same, but they have to show and also give their best effort for you as you do for them.
It’s All About Their Needs
If your partner doesn’t show that they have concern for you, then they only think that the world, including yours, revolve around them. For example, they do not ask you about how your day went or how you are feeling. They only talk about themselves, their day, their problems and emotions. They do not literally care about yours.
Your Self-Esteem Declines And You Feel Unappreciated
“Couples often feel that they know and understand their partner, and are compatible on most issues. However, this is a mistake.” Dr. Chantal Gagnon PhD LMHC explains. As a person, it is in your nature to seek appreciation. This also comes in the relationship. There are times that you want your partner to appreciate your effort and achievements. If you do not receive such, then, it decreases your self-worth, and it also lowers your positive self-regard.