Psychiatrists are medical doctors who have invested their time and effort in studying the relationship of our physical state with mental health issues. They are responsible for diagnosing, preventing, and treating mental disorders based on their nature. Psychiatrists are in a way intimidating. Imagine being with someone who probably has something to say about all the things relating to human behaviors and such? Can you ever be right?
Struggles Of Being Married To A Psychiatrist
1. According to Maryann W. Mathai, LPCC, LMHC, LPC, NCC, “Humans are complex and all of us experience emotions like anger and sadness, so it’s very normal that at some point in the relationship, you will disagree with your partner.” But when you are married to a psychiatrist, chances are you always lose an argument because most of the time, he sees through you. Doctors are brilliant by nature. They have an explanation of every tweak of the body and every abnormality. In short, they know everything. So basically, you married an Einstein who could care less about any other explanation aside from the fact that he already knew.
Be ready to read between the lines, and be a supportive wife. Know when a situation is worth arguing, and be sure to use an approach that doesn’t seem like a brainstorm.
2. Doctors are still working even if they’re at home, especially if they are currently handling a specific challenging case of a patient. They would think about the things they need to do the following day. Intelligent people are always striving to do better and make a change.
Make him some tea or make the home comfortable for him to have a place to think and work. Create a cozy area in the house where he could feel relaxed.
3. Psychiatrists are also human. They also make mistakes. There are instances where they could fail to treat a patient, and this would affect them for quite a while. They may sometimes feel detached or preoccupied with frustrations. “Often, one or both partners can begin to feel they have married the wrong person. Much of this can be avoided with in-depth premarital therapy.” Dr. Chantal Gagnon PhD LMHC explains.
Be their light in times of darkness. Don’t nag or add in their guilt by complaining or blaming them with small stuff like broken furniture. Instead, give them space if they ask for it or make them realize that failure is part of life. Help them get through it.
4. Psychiatrists tend to deal with other people’s challenges. They are preoccupied with issues concerning another individual or couple. There may be times when your husband would overlook his matters, but don’t make a big deal out of it.
Yes, any family issue that stirs the peace and harmony needs attention, but remember that you married a doctor. He has an obligation that requires his utmost care concerning people that might have more perplexing issues. Be understanding and sensitive enough to know the right time for everything.
5. Like every other doctor, psychiatrists have extended hours. They are often busy working, and they might miss out on family dinners and special occasions.
Instead of turning his schedule against him, pay a visit to the clinic and bring in some snacks or anything that will remind him that you appreciate who he is and what he does.
Getting married to a doctor can be a real challenge. You have to bring yourself into his world. Otherwise, there is no meeting in the middle. It’s either you’re in, or you’re out; you or his career. Regardless of the profession of the person you married, it’s still the same vow: “For better or for worse.” Because, “While divorce may be necessary and the healthiest choice for some, others may wish to try to salvage whatever is left of the union.” Donna M. White, LMHC, CACP said.