Give and take is what makes a relationship strong. Keeping the relationship between two people equal is necessary. Yet in reality, there are cases wherein there is an imbalance in the relationship. Maintaining such situations can make the relationship go into a brink. It can even destroy a family. In this article, 10 facts to know that you are being taken advantage of by your partner is listed:
It is fate that unites a man and a woman, and as per the Center for Disease Control and Prevention, there are about 2,245,404 marriages in America, but 827,261 ended up in divorce. It seems love faded, and couples chose to part ways permanently.
There are many challenges in marriage since it is the union of two completely different individuals. They have to deal with their differences, and it is easier said than done. There will come the point where one can feel burned out by the relationship, and fortunately, there is always a choice to walk away. As Heather Edwards LMHC, NCC, BCC says, “It can be difficult to re-establish a healthy routine and empower yourself after a toxic relationship. Fortunately, coming to the realization that you need to let go is one of the most difficult steps.”
The key to eternal marriage is becoming more and more difficult to possess. Married couples are more likely to settle differences in court than to work things out. However, there is a detested way to make a marriage last.
For some reason, it is the nature of women to love men profoundly, and for a long time, men have been trying to understand women. Maybe this is the problem, but our feelings and emotions blind us, and if we think about it thoroughly, this could indeed make sense. Jor-El Caraballo, LMHC said, “Relationships in and of themselves do not create mental illness.” However, he adds, “When we suffer in our relationships, it can be difficult to move forward from past hurt and trauma.”
Loving The Wife More And Understanding Her Less
It is not that men love their wives inadequately. Maybe they feel it intensely but are showing it wrong. Men may not be aware that women have ideals when they think about marriage, and it is plain hypocrisy to say otherwise. Women may say they are content with this and that, but they have already set a standard. It is either husband meets or surpasses it, and anything less, to even an inch, makes love questionable.
Men should never understand women because it honestly is impossible. Women’s mind reaches the stars when thinking, and to try to catch up is not the wisest idea because they may only be gathering possibilities. Let’s face it; women are emotional. They tend to overthink about everything, and most of the time conflicts start because of him being him (insensitive) and her being her (too sensitive).
What men should do is to love their wives more, and they can do this by knowing their expectations and exceed them. Do the unexpected if you can because, with women, chances are they have already thought about ten different scenarios. Do the 11th because women love surprises. They may say they don’t, but they do!
Loving The Husband Less And Understanding Him More
Women have an intense way of feeling what they feel that they tend to ignore what they should be dealing with like their husband’s behavior. For instance, he drinks a lot or has a gambling problem. She may oversee this and love him unconditionally. She doesn’t mind that this is already a problem in their marriage, and instead of doing something about it, she keeps quiet and loves him more, but weeps silently.
Women should be objective that instead of blindly accepting all circumstances, she should be trying to understand the situation and think of ways to comprehend, to make her husband know that it is not okay or she is hurting with his behavior. The thing with women is that they assume and demand that men “should” know, and on the other hand, men are thinking “She’ll say something if it’s not okay.”
“We can’t change the toxic people into non-toxic people, but we can work on being less reactive.” Marie Manly, PhD implies. Men and women are entirely different. They tend to think and function oppositely, and making them meet in the middle could be very challenging. Since they are the opposite of each other, maybe he ought to do what he wouldn’t, and she ought to not do what she does, but then again, we all act according to our feelings, and maybe it is the way it should be, and it is just about finding the one who fits the puzzle.
When people think about abuse in a relationship, they often assume it to be physical. However, it’s not where the abuse starts or ends. Violence can be emotional and psychological too and sometimes; it can be everything in between. With all that said, it is important to acknowledge mental conditions such as depression and anxiety as the number one source of overall health breakdown. Nonetheless, it is essential to identify the relationship abuses that cause it.
Financial abuse is real, but you seldom hear about it because most women were experiencing this type of damage are ashamed that they’re going through it. They don’t want to talk about it, not even with their friends, especially not with their family. As much as possible, they want to show everyone that they made the right decision, that they married the right man.
When we hear of abuse, we always think it is physical, but other abuses could happen within a marriage. Some forms of abuse such as emotional and psychological abuse would leave no bruise nor a scratch. They are silent abuses which damage us from inside.
How do we keep our marriage vows when our situation gets worse? Are we truly up for the worse? In every 1000 population in the US, the divorce rate is about0.007% or 7 out of every 1,000 population, and one of the main reasons for this is an abusive partner. Abuse can be common in marriages and relationships, especially on women. The Violence Against Women Act of 1994 (VAWA)was created with the intent to protect women against domestic violence.
The toxicity of it all!
Saying, “Fine, whatever,” when it’s not fine, or answering, “If that’s what you want,” if the person is not supportive. Also claiming, “I’m not angry,” when the person is burning up inside. These are some of the most infuriating passive-aggressive statements that you might encounter in your marriage.
Abuse, in any form, should not be tolerated. You do not deserve to be treated this way, and neither does anybody else.
Emotional abuse is not your daily squabbles with your partner nor is it the time your husband told you in all sincerity how he disapproves of your decision. Those things are included in a healthy relationship – fights, misunderstandings, disagreements. They are all jumbled up in one complex affiliation known as marriage.
The princess woke up only to realize that it was the kiss of death.
I’m sure you’re familiar with all those fairy tales that ended up in grandiose marriages with singing, dancing, lively music, and a happy crowd that cheers exuberantly for the newlywed couple as they drove away into the sunset.
Indeed, what a happily ever after.
But then, what happens next?
Does the prince maintain his handsome, affectionate, kindhearted character that you see in the movies or does he become the monster who antagonizes his wife for the rest of their married lives?