Physical abuse is the act of inflicting pain on another person which then results in minor or major injury or injuries. In relationships, it starts out with pushing, pulling or grabbing, something not too violent at first. It then escalates to slapping, punching, or kicking the other person. If the abused won’t do something about it, it will worsen over time.
Often, this is the case, especially in domestic settings. By law all over the world, hurting someone physically is a human rights violation. Thus, if you have been physically abused, here’s what you have to do:
Signs Of Physically-Abused Persons
Being afraid of your partner or spouse
“Many women came to a breaking point when the fear and the pain simply became overwhelming,” Jason B. Whiting, Ph.D., LMFT said. Since you already have that fear in you, you tend to avoid things and topics that might trigger your partner’s anger. As a result, you are too careful to the extent that your mental state is near paranoia. Walking on eggshells is the best way to describe your state.
Everything is just wrong. An abused person has this mentality that everything they do is wrong. You will lose your confidence, and you seem to live in distress all the time that you will fail your partner or spouse.
Kinds Of Physical Abuse
“Examples of physical abuse are behaviors like pushing, shouting over you, screaming in your face, physically taking things away from your grip, grabbing you tightly, squeezing, pinching, hitting, slapping, punching, biting, kicking, shoving, forced sexual contact, restraining, and destroying your property,” –Christine Scott-Hudson, MA MFT ATR
Scratching. Inflicting harm on someone with the use of fingers, causing scratch marks and even wounds on any part of the body.
Biting. Causing wounds on any part of the body with the use of teeth.
Slapping. This means hitting the injured party with the use of a forceful hand, usually on the face.
Choking. Putting hard pressure on the injured party’s throat which causes difficulty in breathing.
Throwing. Getting things and tossing them around. This act can facilitate in hitting the offended party and cause physical injury.
Food Deprivation. The abuser is not giving or allowing the abused party food to eat.
Forced-Feeding. Forcing the injured party to eat.
Using Deadly Materials. Threatening the injured party with the use of materials that can cause harm.
Physical Restraining. Examples of this act are pinning against the wall, bed or floor.
Reckless Driving. Putting the injured party’s life at risk by driving dangerously to put fear on the person is a sign of abuse.
The Aftermath Of Abuse
The Blame Game
The abuser would reason out that you triggered the anger in him and it leads to the “situation.” Some would even reason out and attribute their behavior due to alcohol or drugs.
“I Am So Sorry, I Promise…”
After the attack, most abusers feel guilty for what they have done. They will apologize and promise not to do it again. The apology may be genuine, but you have to remember the following:
- Their behavior is out of your control. It is their responsibility.
- Abuse is not justifiable. No reason in the world can make the act of violence right before the law.
What to Do When Abuse Takes Place
“It can be hard to talk about abuse, as nobody wants to think of themselves as a victim.” Nicole Tammelleo, LCSW-R said. But once abused or if you believe that you are a victim of abuse, it is advisable that you should report the incident at once to the authorities. If you can’t do that, tell someone like your friends and family so that they can help you. Support groups and services are very much willing to assist the victims when it comes to intervention and mental health healing. Upon receiving a distress call, they would act on it at once to save the victim from further abuse.