Domestic Abuse: No Room For Reconciliation


The 2018 Domestic Abuse Conference talked about couples who have experienced domestic violence in their relationships. Their main topic was face-to-face restorative justice between the abuser and the victim. It may seem inappropriate, but when a couple decides to cohabitate or fix their marriage after a domestic violence incident, FRJ (face-to-face restorative justice) is necessary.

Personally, if you ask me if there is physical abuse involved in a relationship, there is no more reason to cohabitate. There is no more reason to fix the marriage. The only thing that the victim must do after a physical altercation is going to the police, report the physical abuse incident, and let the abuser suffer the consequences. I am not saying that the abuser is 100% male. In some rare cases, women are also the ones who abuse their husbands or boyfriends. Either way, the physical assault must never happen in a relationship. No one must go through that type of disrespectful and loveless act.


You have to remember that love is respect. Love is never calling your spouse or partner hurtful names or putting them down. Pushing, pulling, restraining, striking, or hitting is not love. Threatening your spouse or partner in any way is not love. For me, if the abuser is given a second chance in the relationship, it is like providing him or her the license to abuse you again. Stop the abuse by stopping the relationship. That is the only solution.

United Nations have reported on their website that at least 35% of women in the world will experience some type of domestic abuse in their lifetime. It may either be physical or sexual violence, which, for some, the grave incidents, can be life-altering. These women, because of the abuse that they have gone through, will develop conditions like depression, anxiety, or PTSD. The conditions can be chronic mental health issues, diseases of the mind, that without treatment will render the abused women “injured.”

If ever you experience physical abuse from your spouse or partner, I beg you to reconsider the reconciliation path.